Whenever our past comes into the equation , we normally associate it with pain. Or perhaps some bad memory. It even brings nostalgia to some of us. This is not necessarily the case but seldom have I seen people smile down upon their past. Very rare are those cases , and even rarer our chances of meeting those people and comprehending the reason behind that certain positive mentality of theirs. Looks like all we have is ourselves. It’s up to us to figure our battles out.
I brought up this same topic with my friend the other day , curious about her opinion on why she thinks not all of us are truly free of our past. Why we have our demons and if there’s a solution to it. She told me she thought that it was maybe because not all of us go through the same life experiences. For some it’s easy , for some it’s not. I kept thinking about her statement a lot. It didn’t ring true to me. She was right that not all of us go through the same things , but that doesn’t mean some have it easy. Nobody does. In our own way , we go through life altering experiences and learn. Sometimes we fall too. What’s important to remember is that not all of us have the opportunity to express it. Comparing is not the solution.
Our biggest mistake is in the thought that happiness is guaranteed. That life should be easy. Truth is , in this difficult ride , we’re supposed to create and find our own happiness.
But is the process as easy as we preach? No. For some of us , life throws such big , jarring curveballs that nothing remains the same anymore. We find ourselves getting sucked deeper and deeper into the abyss. Even if everything seems perfect and you don’t physically spot any flaw in somebody , doesn’t mean that there are no scars. Some of them are hidden so deep within them that even they don’t realise it.
The only way out of our suffering and the only method to be truly free of our past is to be sympathetic. Both towards others and ourselves. No life was ever lived without a battle fought and no measure of strength ever came without the will to be strong. Every smile is a token of strength. Someone’s will to be happy despite the odds. Everyone’s fighting their own battle. Mental , emotional , physical or spiritual. Me , you and everybody else.
Don’t ever let the darkness consume you. Do not ever let it defeat you. For those who try to be an obstacle in your path , don’t mind them. Your goal is your destination , not your opponents. Keep pushing forward , so that one day you can look back , smile and admire your strength.
The only difference between strong and weak , is your will. Remember that. More than all this , there’s just this one more harsh fact . Whenever you feel lost , broken , damaged beyond repair or just feel like you’re in a situation you can’t escape from , never lose hope. Because you can’t lose. You cannot let the darkness win. What’s done is done. Now is the moment to get up and start fighting back .
As long as we have even an ounce of breath left in us , we have an opportunity to be the winner of our fate. As they say :-
” The past can hurt. But you can either run from it , or learn from it”.
One more quote that really resonates with me regarding the same is :-
” I don’t ever want to run away from my problems. I want to run towards them “.
Giving up and letting your existence fade is never the solution. You matter , hence you are. Not all of us are lucky enough to always have a guiding hand , but whenever light presents itself , learn to accept it.
Make your vibe and energy such that no-one can mess with it. On this day , let us be fierce and strong. The only way we can free ourselves , is when we want to.